LIFE ll DEPRESSION.

    Hey Dear,
        Been trying to write this post for a while now, but its quite hard putting thoughts into words, but here is something. I know from the title of this post, you'd be wondering whats all this? who talks about such theses days? and all. But the fact that people don't talk about it is the much reason we need to do so. Many people (mostly Africans) have very vague knowledge or say about Depression, they feel its not true and all.
                           

    Depression is a state of mind producing serious, long-term lowering of enjoyment of life or inability to visualize a happy future. Its a period of unhappiness or low morale which lasts longer than several weeks and may include ideation of self-inflicted injury or suicide.

                      MYTHS OF DEPRESSION.
   Most people have a lot of opinions of depression which are rather vague/false, of which some are:
- People don't like to talk about it, they feel the more you talk about it, the worse it becomes.
- It's a poor man's problem: They say rich kids/man don't get depressed, but i say neh to that, most rich people do get depressed.
- Some also say its a rich man/kid's problem: They say when you have enough money, that you start bringing up names of problems like depression.
- Africans don't get depressed: Have heard people say that our songs most especially Nigerian songs which are more lively don't get people depressed, but what happens when the music is off? or there's none at all?? You sink back into the mood.

                          TRUTH ABOUT DEPRESSION.
- Everyone suffers from depression but in different levels: We all have suffered from depression even the greatest and happiest ones but in different ways and times, but we have different reactions to them either through self-cutting, shutting people out, some jack back up after a while, or putting more efforts into work not to think about it, suicide.etc
- Talking about it goes a long way in solving it.
- Africans and everyone do get depressed.
- Depression is not a sign of weakness. It means you have been strong for far too long.
        Depression comes from lack of adequacy/inadequacy, broken heart, rejection, abuse, when things don't seem to be going your way/working out, environment and so much more, it also comes in different ways; sometimes I feel am too happy for my own good, so I sometimes let depression come in, to feel a little bit of sadness. The deeper you sink into it, the deeper it becomes.
    Depression is a prison where you are both the suffering prison and the cruel jailer. - Dorothy Rowe.

                            TACKLING DEPRESSION.
I. ADMIT IT: Knowing that its a problem and Believing in recovery is the first step of tackling it, some people see it as normal and a way of life, but no, it isn't, you supposed to be happy and free and not tied down to something or someone, words or feelings. You are supposed to express yourself the way you want to and not how people expect you to.
II. KNOW THE SOURCE: Knowing the source helps, it could come from being rejected, what someone said/did, your past, abuse or someone you need to forgive and let go of to be free. When you know the source, you will be able to know how to go about it.
III. PRAY ABOUT IT: Prayer is a communication between man and God. Its talking and taking your problems to God like He is human. Pray to God about it, tell Him to show you the way out of it. When it Comes, Pray about it.
IV. TAKE YOUR MIND OFF IT:  Go out, Try new places or go on an Adventure and explore, Listen to Clean Music, Do something New. Stay Productive, depression comes when you have little or nothing doing, but when you productive, it tends to go, the thought doesn't creep in. Avoid Things/People that bring up depression, the kind of music you listen to also helps, some bring up memories that sink you into depression.
V. SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP: You could go to a Psychiatrist/Shrink, if you feel the need to talk to someone that might understand and be able to help you.
VI. KNOW YOUR WORTH: Knowing who you are and your Purpose helps in tackling depression, helps to silent those voices in your head.
                     

      Taking a step towards Happiness goes a long way than Procrastinating and Giving-up.
   So if you know someone that's depressed, give them a smile, try to help them with this little tips, pray for and with them, take them out to explore/ make them try something new.
           

         I hope this post has been helpful and inspiring. If you would like to talk, you can send me an email - aevetonnia@gmail.com.

                               Remember, SHARING IS HELPING.

                                                                                                                Take Care,

                                                                                                                     MW.